Hi all, this is Mica;
Since the release of the FriendOS demo, there’ve been serious concerns going around about me. Namely, allegations of me being a groomer, predator, sex pest, etc. These are valid concerns worth addressing, and they are verifiably false.
This first came to my attention when someone reposted an old document I made on Bluesky:
I appreciate that people are willing to publicize concerns like this, because predators do warrant ostracization. But “guilty until proven innocent” is an irresponsible mindset, and this post is very guilty of it.
- First, I’ve never crossed state lines to visit a minor, ew?? This is a really gross lie, possibly made to grab people’s attention. It’s disturbing that someone would make up something like this, especially saying that I “self-admitted” to it, and exists nowhere in the attached document.
- The document they included is… about me detailing how I was abused by my ex in a relationship from about four years ago.
This post’s headline is a major callout against me, but the document is actually in my defense? This leaves me worried that they didn’t actually source (let alone read) what they’re spreading.
In other words:
- There’s misinformation going around about me.
- It’s spread from people who don’t seem to read what I have to say for myself.
- It’s discussing dirty laundry from years ago.
- It’s timed right after I have a major project release.
This should concern you, because it feels like it’s deliberate bad-faith misinformation, which deserves further interrogation.
In general, the claims people make about me have been verifiably false for a long time, it’s just that nobody has actually ever cared about me being sexually abused. Here’s a huge document I wrote years ago that goes into more detail about it.
But, in case you aren’t interested in reading that, here’s some major points from it. Content warning for abuse:
- My ex completely fabricated entire complex scenarios between us that never happened (there’s strong evidence of this early in the document). This, by itself, makes every allegation from them untrustworthy.
- My ex took on a new identity, pretending to be a disabled Korean to contact me again after I blocked them (in reality, they are white, and not disabled). In this state, they were successful in taking advantage of me.
- My ex would self-harm whenever I said no to them, completely stripping me of any and all consent. They called me sick and said I needed mental help for not engaging with their fetish.
- My ex, under multiple instances, would tell people that I had groomed them, while simultaneously DMing me, begging for me to come back to them.
- My ex pressured me into transitioning, due to them having a strong feminine preference. I’ve since detransitioned.
- My ex overdosed in an attempt to guilt trip me and kill themselves after they didn’t get a promotion for Toontown: Corporate Clash. So, it would be extremely concerning if any staff members over there supported them.
This same ex is responsible for the original allegations being spread about me. Not only are their claims impossible to verify, but they have never been as severe as what they actually did to me.
The entire relationship was characterized by stripping me of options and consent, since they would threaten self-harm or threaten suicide whenever I ever did something they disliked. After I finally cut them out of my life, they took the things I said — the things I said in the interest of them not killing themselves — and used it to frame me as a predator.
That’s all I have to say.
I do want to emphasize that people’s concerns about me are valid, especially because I was never in the position (nor mental state) to ever respond to these claims properly in the first place.
I hold no ill will towards those who are spreading them now. Your heart is in the right place, and these things are really scary. But please know that the claims are flaky, not to mention completely unrepresentative of how I was four years ago, let alone now.
It’s been causing a lot of distress for me to have to deal with this again, thanks to people sensationalizing my trauma. I left my old community so I could move on, so leave me alone, please.
If you see anyone else that’s dubious of me and my past (and reasonably so!), could you do me a favor and link them this post? I would appreciate it, thank you.
~ Mica Moondog